To Tweet Or Not To Tweet?

Listening in on the social media debate

They’ve made all the rules a lot stricter now. Apparently. You can be arrested. 

No — I think they’ve made them less strict, haven’t they?

Depends who you believe, Emily.

I’m not sure I believe anyone any more. 

Except Caitlin M of course.

Haha! Natch! Except the fab Caitlin M! She was VERY big on this Twitter Silence thingummy of course — did you see?

I missed that.

How I love that gel! Say what you like, but she is One Brave Lady.


And something had to be done. It’s such an important mode of communication for women — isn’t it? I know you’re not on Twitter — yet. But you will be. Before long. And you’ll have to develop a thick skin. Pronto. To survive it. Trust me.

Have you ever received an abusive tweet, Tilly?

Hmm? I don’t want to talk about it…

Oh go on!

I have. Yes. Made me feel filthy, Emily. A bit like I’d been raped…

What did it say?

I can’t tell you. Too disgusting. I actually felt literally violated afterwards.

But you’ve hardly got any followers…Why would they pick on you?

They don’t have to be followers, Ems. Just tools. You know? Looking for strong, attractive women…to attack…

But you’re not noticeably “strong” — I mean you are. Obviously. And I’m not being rude and you’re very attractive in real life — as you know. But your pic — it’s mostly of the kids, isn’t it? With your head sort of poking out behind. I don’t see…

Well — you can be dismissive if you want.

What did it say?

I told you, I don’t want to talk about it.

It can’t be that bad! The guy only had 140 characters…

You can sneer. If you want to. But as a feminist — 

As a feminist?

Emily — 

Seriously, Tills — I adore you. But really — “feminist” indeed! You just read something somewhere about feminism being the new black…or whatever. You don’t even know the meaning of the word.

There you go — ridiculing and diminishing. It’s what’s wrong, basically. People see a strong woman-and they want to crush her…


You may think feminism is “the new black”. I happen to think it’s a lot bigger than that. And as a feminist, who has personally experienced misogyny in the Twittersphere — I applaud the Twitter silence. And furthermore…

Oh my goodness! Furthermore!

Furthermore — I applaud the new restrictions on the Twitter abusers — the trolls, as we call them. I think it’s important that we fight back, as women. We join together, as women, and say — Up With This We Will Not Put!

Up with what, Emily?

You know. All the misogyny. In the language and everything…You know the ugly one who doesn’t wear make-up? Who goes on telly — whatsername? I can’t stand her really — 

Mary Beard?

She got bomb threats! And rape threats and everything!

That’s horrible.

Because she’s a WOMAN, Tilly! That was her only crime. She’s a woman. Who DARES not to be pretty.

If she cut her hair. Put on a bit of mascara…

That’s not the point!

What is the point, then? What are you getting at? People don’t like her — because she’s quite annoying. You said so yourself.

All right-but what about that other woman? Who everyone hates. With the little husband…Oh God…Bercow. Sally Bercow. Are you telling me that wasn’t misogyny?

Did she do the Twitter Silence?

Well, I don’t know.

Did you?

Well I did — or I was about to. But  then — I just really wanted to voice my support, you know. About the silence. And share — that.

Did she?


Caitlin Moran.

Hmm? Well I presume so. I’ve no idea. By the way — you know the sale’s on at Whistles. Want to come? What are you doing later?

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